Dear LFTP: the son-in-law who orders like a king

• Our son-in-law orders the most expensive items whenever we take them out to dinner. Do we grin and bear it, or say something?

Mike (addressed by name just before reading) reads a Dear LFTP letter from parents bothered that their son-in-law Brody orders the most expensive item, drinks, an upgraded salad, and dessert whenever they take the couple out. The hosts debate hospitality versus being taken advantage of: be lavish when you offer, but you're not obligated to fund foolishness. They roleplay the confrontation ('if you were paying, would you order the same?'), read the 'Secular' answer (bringing it up won't be well received), and land on having the direct conversation — if you love him, tell him; a parent who won't say it doesn't love him.