The actual study: jealousy scales and 'compersion'
Ben reads from the actual study behind the article: the investment scale flags partners as less invested if they expect to date someone else in the next year, and the 1986 Hatfield and Sprecher passionate-love scale treats jealousy about a third party as less passionate love. The hosts object: jealousy can mean caring deeply, and feeling happy a partner found someone else does not make the relationship 'a little better.'
More on Jealousy
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Dear LFTP: the trailer-park girlfriend and the blue-light neighbor
- Dear LFTP: what should a man do about his girlfriend's closeness with a troubled drug-addicted neighbor?
Mike (addressed on air) reads a letter from a man in an 18-year unmarried relationship: his girlfriend Jana (64) has become inseparable from Aiden (35), a drug-addicted disabled neighbor draped in blue lights who walks the middle of the street.
From No. 497 · Nothing More Than Feelings
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Dear LFTP: the husband whose new job is full of women
- Am I overreacting about how women act toward my husband at his new job?
The reader opens the first Dear LFTP letter: a wife says her husband's new job has him working with a bunch of women, they act flirty toward him, he says he doesn't notice and doesn't want to be rude, and she wants to know if she is overreacting.
From No. 428 · Old Church Ideas
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Dear LFTP: jealous over my Zumba husband's admirers
- Are the Zumba letter writer's jealous feelings normal?
A listener writes that her husband takes Zumba despite knee problems and women keep complimenting his dancing on cruises and at restaurants; she admits jealousy and asks if her feelings are normal.
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Dear LFTP: jealous daughter-in-law and the grandchildren
- How do I handle a jealous daughter-in-law who keeps my grandchildren from me?
The first Dear LFTP letter: a grandmother writes that her daughter-in-law is jealous of her close relationship with her daughter and withholds the grandchildren when upset, though she already gets them almost every weekend.
From No. 311 · Lose Your Life to Gain It