143 conversations
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Should following Jesus feel more comfortable as time goes on?
- Should following Jesus feel more comfortable as time goes on?
A host asks whether following Jesus should feel more comfortable as time goes on — noting the low-level tension many feel around am-I-doing-enough and the stigma that contentment equals laziness.
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Dear LFTP: long friendship broken by a theft accusation
- Are we oversensitive to feel insulted and end a long friendship after a theft accusation without an apology?
A letter asks whether the writers are oversensitive: friends of many years apparently think they stole items from their house, say it is in the past and they have forgiven them, but offered no apology, and the writers can no longer be friends.
From No. 562 · Enter the McCormick II
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Dear LFTP: husband's ex-fiancee memories
- Am I overreacting to finding photos of my husband's elaborate proposal to his ex-fiancee?
Mike reads a Dear LFTP letter from an eight-months-pregnant wife who found old photos of her husband with his ex-fiancee, including an elaborate proposal like the one he never gave her, and asks if she is overreacting.
From No. 560 · Chill Out
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Ben's three questions: is he real, is he good, is he capricious?
- Is God even real?
- Is God good?
Ben frames three reasonable reactions to Old Testament violence: (1) maybe God isn't real; (2) maybe he isn't good; (3) maybe he's capricious.
From No. 540 · Justice is Mine
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Dear LFTP: accused of cheating by a wounded pregnant girlfriend
- My pregnant girlfriend accuses me of cheating after her abusive past - what should I do?
Mike reads a letter from a man whose pregnant girlfriend Jessica accuses him of cheating after he napped at his grandparents' house on a day off; she survived a nine-year abusive relationship full of infidelity and now bars him from the delivery room.
From No. 534 · The Antagonistic Bison
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Complaint-line follow-up: tithing, blessing, and the prosperity gospel
- Does faithfulness in giving guarantee material blessing, and does suffering imply unfaithfulness?
Ben reads his own complaint-line text challenging the prior show's tithe conversation: if giving brings blessing (Malachi's 'test me in this'), how should blessing be understood when faithful givers still lack basic needs, and does suffering imply unfaithfulness?
From No. 530 · Know Self Control
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Dear LFTP: should a father disinherit his daughter over her boyfriend?
- Should people's misuse of a gift be a reason to not give a gift?
- How do I tell my daughter I am removing her from my will?
Boova reads the full letter: the boyfriend stole $200,000 from his grandparents, has a denied gambling problem, and already took $200 from the daughter's checking account since release; the father fears telling her about the will change will end the relationship.
From No. 529 · Enter The McCormick
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Dear LFTP: the drinking-establishment letter and rebuilding trust
- I exchanged numbers and agreed to lunch with a man I met while my husband was in class — how do I rebuild his trust?
A listener married four years (together ten) writes that while her husband was in a class, she went to a drinking establishment, met a man, exchanged numbers, and agreed to meet…
From No. 523 · This Is Not Love
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Suffering, character, and the weed-whacking analogy
- Is suffering and going through hard things worth the good that comes out of it?
The host engages Emma's core doubt: is suffering worth the good that comes out of it? God isn't buying perseverance by hurting people — human suffering is reality, and he can use it for good; it's more call to repentance than punitive lesson.
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Dear LFTP: grandma versus the lying granddaughter
- My 14-year-old granddaughter lies to me with a straight face for fun — what should I do?
A grandmother writes that her 14-year-old granddaughter lies to her with a straight face for fun — claiming a Hawaii trip, then Tourette's — which stung extra because the grandmother had epilepsy as a teen.
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Dear LFTP: the reformed player and the play-by-play
- Every time I leave the house, my wife needs a play-by-play of where I am going -- any advice?
- Is 'idle hands are the devil's workshop' actually in the Bible?
A listener writes that his wife demands a play-by-play every time he leaves the house, noting he used to be 'a player' but age caught up with him.
From No. 496 · Regrets
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Dear LFTP: the husband's affair and the work of forgiveness
- I can't get over my husband's affair — what went wrong and should I stay?
Boova reads a letter from a 60-year-old woman whose husband of two and a half years had a two-month affair; counseling didn't help, and she keeps bringing the affair up while feeling stuck.
From No. 485 · Steadfast
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Dear LFTP: second-marriage wife hangs out with other men after an affair
- Am I wrong to think my wife's outings with other men are unacceptable for a married woman?
Mike reads a letter from a man married two years to a younger woman who left for her deadbeat ex seven months in, then returned; now she takes her daughter on play dates and park…
From No. 483 · Ahhh Hell
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Dear LFTP: should an anxious mother let her 14-year-old get a job?
- Is it right to let my 14-year-old daughter work, given my history of being abused?
A Dear LFTP letter: a mother with congestive heart failure and adrenal insufficiency writes that her 14-year-old daughter wants a job to help family finances.
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Dear LFTP: husband drinking until 6AM with friends' sister
- My husband drinks until 6AM with three brothers and their sister; how should I handle it?
A letter from a wife: her husband hangs out with three brothers who drink, and their sister sometimes joins; he was out from 11PM to 6AM drinking and partying, and ignores her concerns.
From No. 467 · We Ate The Locusts
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Dear LFTP: partner keeps going to band practice during COVID
- What do I do about my partner's COVID-risky band practice?
A host reads a listener letter from a woman whose partner Josh, a musician, keeps practicing with his band despite two fragile family members who would die if they got COVID-19.
From No. 461 · Acid, Stupidity and Russia
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Dear LFTP: the husband whose new job is full of women
- Am I overreacting about how women act toward my husband at his new job?
The reader opens the first Dear LFTP letter: a wife says her husband's new job has him working with a bunch of women, they act flirty toward him, he says he doesn't notice and doesn't want to be rude, and she wants to know if she is overreacting.
From No. 428 · Old Church Ideas
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Dear LFTP: trusting a new partner after betrayal
- How do I move past my trust issues and give a new relationship a fair chance?
A second Dear LFTP letter: after years of untrustworthy family, friends, and ex-boyfriends, a woman fears she will destroy a promising new relationship.
From No. 312 · The Shack
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Dear LFTP: loving an addicted, homeless twin brother
- What should I do about my twin brother, who is an alcoholic and homeless, guilt-trips me for money, faked an overdose, threatens suicide, and refuses professional help?
A listener asks what to do about a twin brother who is alcoholic, homeless, guilt-trips him for money, faked an overdose, threatens suicide, and refuses help; the hosts advise…
From No. 303 · Live From The Path w/ Jacey
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Dear LFTP: the co-pay-before-service senior
- Shouldn't a doctor's office trust its established patients enough to let them pay after the service is rendered?
A senior-citizen letter-writer is shocked her specialist now demands the co-pay before the visit and asks whether a doctor's office shouldn't trust established patients.
From No. 290 · Leave the Light On
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Dear LFTP: the dating profile age lie
- What is the penalty for putting false information on a dating profile?
A host reads a listener letter: a 58-year-old man discovered 'Molly,' 60 on her profile, is really 67, and asks whether lying on a dating profile is grounds for dismissal.
From No. 286 · When Pastors Fall
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Dear LFTP: girlfriend snooped my phone
- Am I wrong to feel my privacy was invaded when my girlfriend snooped through my phone at 2AM, and should she apologize?
The hosts read a listener letter: the writer texts his ex civilly about their kids; after venting about his girlfriend Lily (three years) in one text, she spent the night and he woke at 2AM to find her reading his phone, then stormed out angry.
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Dear LFTP: 'Steamed in the South' car letter
- Are we wrong to feel taken advantage of after selling a car cheaply to our son's girlfriend, who then traded it in for the equity?
The hosts read a letter from parents of a 22-year-old son: they sold a car to his girlfriend (of six months) for less than half its trade-in value after her bad financial decisions, and a month later she traded it in for the equity.
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Dear LFTP: single six years, no callbacks
- Why do none of my first dates ever call back?
A listener single for almost six years asks why dates never call back, citing trust issues from past relationships.
From No. 277 · Faith and Feeling