Dear LFTP: the household chore divide
- Should I let the household-chore imbalance go, or are my priorities misplaced?
Dear LFTP: a working mother of two does nearly all the household chores while her husband deflects; she asks whether to let it go or whether her priorities are misplaced. The twofold advice: if nobody can meet your standards, that is partly on you — but the husband signed up for the home and owes her real service, with humility on both sides. A host shares his 35-year marriage's ebb and flow of chore division, another admits to being the husband who does not see the laundry, and the room lands on grace plus honest communication. The Secular answer suggests giving the husband a choice: participate more or hire help.
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Dear LFTP: wife mocks husband's bladder problem in public
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