Dear LFTP: the uninvited grandmother
- Was I wrong to suggest combining my granddaughter's wedding and the family party?
Dear LFTP: a grandmother writes that her granddaughter is marrying privately with no family invited but wants a pre-wedding party; the grandmother suggested combining them, the granddaughter stopped talking to her, and she asks if she was wrong. The verdict is blunt — 'too late, you meddling cow' — with advice to apologize, stop making it about herself, and simply show up happy for them. The Secular answer agrees she should not personalize it but oddly says there is no need to mend fences, which a host disputes with a story about apologizing to a neighbor kid he had shushed.
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Dear LFTP: the mother-in-law moved in
- My mother-in-law moved in seven months ago and it’s been difficult — how can we sort this out?
The last letter comes from a wife whose mother-in-law moved in seven months ago with no boundaries, rising bills, unpaid prescriptions, and open disrespect.
From No. 604 · Rearview Mirror
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Dear LFTP: the single man and the holiday cliques
- Would it be wrong for the lonely single man to start declining holiday invitations?
The first Dear LFTP letter: a single man, happy with his life and plenty of friends and family, dreads the holidays — at Thanksgiving and Christmas gatherings of 15 to 25 people,…
From No. 603 · Found Out
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Dear LFTP: the grandma, 'Libby,' and the weight comment
- Was I wrong to mention my concern about Libby's weight?
Mike reads the letter: she moved 2,000 miles to be near her daughter's family; granddaughter 'Libby' was diagnosed with a medical condition and put on weight.
From No. 602 · Relationship Counseling
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Dear LFTP: the Mimi letter ('Call Me Hoopi')
- Is it wrong for a grandmother to be upset when her grandson's other grandmother claims the same nickname?
Mike reads the Dear LFTP letter: a grandmother whose two-year-old grandson calls her Mimi — but the other grandmother claimed Mimi for herself, and the daughter-in-law is annoyed and doesn't want 'mom mom' either.