Dear LFTP: mother favors the brother

• My mother favors my brother and won't visit to meet my fiancee — what can I do?

A listener is hurting because her mother favors her brother, refuses to visit or meet her fiancee, and says it hurts when confronted. The hosts advise that she should make the drive herself if the relationship matters — 'if it is important to you, then do the thing that's important to you' — and warn that some people's love language is 'joining them in misery.' The discussion detours into a Rand Paul tangent ('Randall, not Randy') and a comedy riff on whether Genesis's 'thigh' should be translated 'testicles,' before the Secular answer (make the long drive, bring the fiancee) is read.