Dear LFTP: the 4'11" man and the dating-site height filter
- Should I lie about my height on dating profiles since the algorithm filters me out?
- Am I destined to spend my life alone because of my height?
- Ladies, is being under five feet tall an actual dealbreaker?
A letter from a man in his late forties, 4'11", who asks whether he should lie about his height on dating profiles since the algorithm always returns 'no match.' The hosts sympathize — 'he's up against an algorithm' — and debate: one suggests fudging to 5'0" as an experiment to test whether height is really the filter; another says online dating is a meat market and he should meet people live where personality leads; Dan's advice is to forget the 'stupid computer game' and go where people mingle. They land on confidence being the real attractive quality, mock the racetrack/jockey idea, and one notes 'Ben goes with the straight lies' regarding the fudging suggestion.
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