Dear LFTP: husband's drinking and lying

• Am I overreacting, or is my husband of fifteen years no longer into this marriage?

A woman writes that her husband of fifteen years has grown distant, drinks beer nightly despite her asking him not to, lies about his alcohol intake and past jobs, and was caught messaging another woman for lunch — and asks whether she's overreacting. The hosts don't frame it as a fading-romance problem: they call him an alcoholic who lies to hide the drinking and will lie just as easily about other things, and advise counseling, church involvement, and giving him every motivation to change — while he has to demonstrate it, because she cannot carry the burden for him. The Secular answer says she is not overreacting and asks whether she's still into the marriage and the person he's become; the hosts push back that people can change, so don't be too shallow about humanity — 'double down on helping him' while he takes the path.