Dear LFTP: no one wants me to live with them when I'm old
- What do you advise an aging parent whose family doesn't want them living with them?
A Dear LFTP letter from a healthy mid-60s parent whose adult children don't want them living with them permanently, fearing a lonely nursing home. The hosts answer that expecting a household in an individualistic Western culture is unfair after a lifetime of independence, suggest separate-but-near housing (a backyard hobbit home, a nearby apartment), note that in other cultures elders still contribute, and advise retooling the perspective rather than nursing resentment. The Secular answer: prepare now, maybe band together with friends and buy a house — 'the old-people frat.' The show closes with the Bob Eisenlauer complaint line and benediction.
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Dear LFTP: the mother-in-law moved in
- My mother-in-law moved in seven months ago and it’s been difficult — how can we sort this out?
The last letter comes from a wife whose mother-in-law moved in seven months ago with no boundaries, rising bills, unpaid prescriptions, and open disrespect.
From No. 604 · Rearview Mirror
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Dear LFTP: the single man and the holiday cliques
- Would it be wrong for the lonely single man to start declining holiday invitations?
The first Dear LFTP letter: a single man, happy with his life and plenty of friends and family, dreads the holidays — at Thanksgiving and Christmas gatherings of 15 to 25 people,…
From No. 603 · Found Out
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Dear LFTP: the grandma, 'Libby,' and the weight comment
- Was I wrong to mention my concern about Libby's weight?
Mike reads the letter: she moved 2,000 miles to be near her daughter's family; granddaughter 'Libby' was diagnosed with a medical condition and put on weight.
From No. 602 · Relationship Counseling
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Dear LFTP: the Mimi letter ('Call Me Hoopi')
- Is it wrong for a grandmother to be upset when her grandson's other grandmother claims the same nickname?
Mike reads the Dear LFTP letter: a grandmother whose two-year-old grandson calls her Mimi — but the other grandmother claimed Mimi for herself, and the daughter-in-law is annoyed and doesn't want 'mom mom' either.