Meetings over relationships, reputation over risk, superiority over humility, charisma over compassion

Four rapid list items: meetings over relationships is really about letting preference or pride split relationships over trivia; reputation over risk brings the Jesus-hangs-out-with-sinners argument with limits (the Triple X Church example: reach the industry, don't join the set); superiority over humility is judged the one that could have shrunk the whole list; charisma over compassion evokes the Mars Hill podcast's charismatic yeller vs. the elbowed-aside elders.