Dear LFTP: the grandmother who never gets offered a drink

• Should a grandmother bring her own refreshment when her daughter-in-law never offers any?

Bubba reads a letter from a grandmother who visits her three grandchildren (ages 1, 3, 6) every Friday, drives 45 minutes each way, brings snacks for the kids — and is never offered so much as a glass of water by her daughter-in-law, who will eat in front of her. The hosts' advice: she is family, not a guest; get her own water or bring her own drink; recognize she is interrupting a homeschooling mother's routine; and drop the attitude that she is the most important thing happening that afternoon. The secular answer to the same letter is read aloud — it calls the daughter-in-law a classless hostess who dislikes her and advises talking to the son — and the hosts hate it. Nathaniel notes his own mother-in-law would just help herself, and the group jokes about Ben's house only offering warm filtered water.