Dear LFTP: wife's self-neglect and possible depression
- Is it normal to be disgusted by my wife's lack of concern about her appearance and belongings, and how do I start helping her?
A husband writes that his wife no longer showers, lets the house and car fill with mess, gains weight, and has retreated into political meme-forwarding; he suspects a chemical imbalance and asks how to start. Dan suggests separation to get her attention. Ben urges starting from grace and possible depression rather than willful neglect, recommending 'we' language and marriage counseling over ultimatums. The Secular answer recommends a doctor's evaluation and an ultimatum, which Ben rejects as adversarial.
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Should following Jesus feel more comfortable as time goes on?
- Should following Jesus feel more comfortable as time goes on?
A host asks whether following Jesus should feel more comfortable as time goes on — noting the low-level tension many feel around am-I-doing-enough and the stigma that contentment equals laziness.
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Dear LFTP: the friend group's new wife
- How do we tell the husband that they are not invited, and who should deliver the message?
A host reads a second Dear LFTP letter: ten college-friend couples are planning a once-in-a-lifetime cruise, and nobody wants the remarried friend's demanding new wife on the ship.
From No. 592 · Because I Got High
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Dear LFTP: the $600 lawnmower and buying them a mower
- My nephew's wife took my $600, lied about it, and is avoiding me. Should I say something or let it go?
Mike reads a letter from someone who gave a nephew's wife $600 for a self-propelled lawnmower; she spent it, never bought the mower, and now avoids them.
From No. 587 · Coffee After Sunday
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Dear LFTP: the $900 couch letter
- My best friend and her son (about a thousand pounds combined) cracked my new $900 couch and want to bring more family over — what do I do?
Mike reads the second letter (same anchor/merge note): the writer bought a new house and a $900 couch; her best friend and the friend's son — 'about a thousand pounds' combined — audibly cracked it and now want to bring more family.