Dear LFTP: the messy shared vacation home
- How do we confront the family sharing our vacation home about their mess without causing tension?
A Dear LFTP letter: the writer and their spouse share a vacation home with another family that leaves dirty dishes for days and dirty diapers on the living room floor; the writers clean up after them but it has gotten out of hand. The hosts advise a bold, direct conversation while showing grace for the different stages of life — a host notes kids under five are "feral" and parents have a sliding scale of priorities. The Secular answer is blunt: dirty diapers are a health hazard, you will not change these slobs — sell your half if you own it, or pick a different getaway if you rent.
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Should following Jesus feel more comfortable as time goes on?
- Should following Jesus feel more comfortable as time goes on?
A host asks whether following Jesus should feel more comfortable as time goes on — noting the low-level tension many feel around am-I-doing-enough and the stigma that contentment equals laziness.
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Dear LFTP: the friend group's new wife
- How do we tell the husband that they are not invited, and who should deliver the message?
A host reads a second Dear LFTP letter: ten college-friend couples are planning a once-in-a-lifetime cruise, and nobody wants the remarried friend's demanding new wife on the ship.
From No. 592 · Because I Got High
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Dear LFTP: the $600 lawnmower and buying them a mower
- My nephew's wife took my $600, lied about it, and is avoiding me. Should I say something or let it go?
Mike reads a letter from someone who gave a nephew's wife $600 for a self-propelled lawnmower; she spent it, never bought the mower, and now avoids them.
From No. 587 · Coffee After Sunday
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Dear LFTP: the $900 couch letter
- My best friend and her son (about a thousand pounds combined) cracked my new $900 couch and want to bring more family over — what do I do?
Mike reads the second letter (same anchor/merge note): the writer bought a new house and a $900 couch; her best friend and the friend's son — 'about a thousand pounds' combined — audibly cracked it and now want to bring more family.