Grief has no time limit: the Jim Hudson story
Answering the long-term question, a host says our culture cruelly gives people two or three weeks and then expects them to get over it -- but grief is a years-long reworking of a relationship with someone you will never talk to again. He tells of attending a funeral that day where a stranger asked if his dad was Jim Hudson, who died in 1994 and served with him in the Iowa Air National Guard; hearing his father's name spoken positively 18 years later was powerful, and he still wears the Air Force ring his dad gave him days before dying. The point: give people permission to grieve without a deadline.
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