Dear LFTP: Brokenhearted in Buffalo — an affair and a pregnancy
- How should a pregnant wife respond when her husband remains attached to his affair partner?
A pregnant listener writes that her husband of eight years had an affair with a married old girlfriend and, nine months on, still emails her, visited her house, and stalks her blocked Facebook profile. The hosts call his behavior pathetic and foolish — sexual sin scrambles the mind — and say he must cut the woman off completely and run to God in repentance; for her, they advise taking him off the pedestal (a sinner, not a non-sinner), forgiving without exposing herself to his sin, confronting him with open communication, and focusing on her child and her relationship with Christ. They reject the secular advice's 'understand why he strayed' framing: the source is him, not her.
More on Forgiveness
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Dear LFTP: the $4,200 loan that never came back
- How do I get past the sadness over the $4,200 loan my friend never repaid — do I just let it go?
The final Dear LFTP letter: a year ago a supposed friend asked to borrow money — her husband had left the country to renew his visa, her car was repossessed, she had no way to get to work.
From No. 603 · Found Out
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Dear LFTP: the stolen college fund and telling the 90-year-olds
- Should I tell my 90-year-old parents that their grandson stole my granddaughter's college fund?
Ben hands to Mike, who reads a grandmother's letter: her son helped himself to the college money the great-grandparents set aside for her granddaughter; she fears telling her parents, in their nineties, could shock them into a stroke.
From No. 586 · Nothing Personal
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Dear LFTP: forty years of a cheating wife and a temptation
- Would it be wrong to rekindle an old friendship for intimacy when my wife has cheated for forty years?
A man approaching his fortieth anniversary writes that his wife has always been a serial cheater, a secret he kept to protect the children's view of her; with retirement and a sexless marriage he asks whether rekindling things with old female friends would be wrong.
From No. 581 · Silly Rabbit | Christianity, Culture, and Navigating Social Expectations
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Dear LFTP: the stalker ex-girlfriend
- How do I get my stalker ex-girlfriend to leave me alone?
Mike reads a letter from a man whose ex-girlfriend keeps trying to get him back, even stalking him, after he blocked her number.