Dear LFTP: mother-in-law 'Bea' excludes the wife

• Must I stay away as my husband says, or should I pursue keeping myself included when they visit from my mother-in-law?

The reader reads a letter from a wife whose mother-in-law Bea handed her a hotel room key and told her to take the children but not her husband, then spent the rest of the visit in the hotel herself; the husband now says the wife makes his mother uncomfortable and may not visit. The hosts side firmly with the wife, call the husband a 'mama's boy' who has made his mother the primary woman in his life, advise professional Christian counseling and possibly an outside authority figure to confront him, then read the 'secular' response suggesting she take a spa vacation when Bea visits.