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Dear LFTP December 1, 2014 · 1:08:22 · 4 min

Dear LFTP: mother who makes her daughters sleep in her bed

  • What is the best thing to do when a mother requires her teenage/college daughters to sleep in her bed every night?

The reader reads a letter from a student (with younger sister Sarah) whose mother requires one of the daughters to sleep in her room every night, using guilt when resisted; the writer worries her mom is depressed or fears abandonment. The hosts call it too deep for a pithy answer: the mother likely needs counseling, the daughters should set a firm boundary, and fixing the sleeping arrangement alone will not solve the mother's underlying need. The "secular answer" advises the sisters to ask together why she does this and, if she cannot sleep alone, to stay until she falls asleep and then leave — which the hosts find unconvincing.

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