Dear LFTP: daughters moving in with boyfriends
- Are we wrong to refuse to attend our daughters' open-house party after they moved in with their boyfriends?
A listener asks whether they are wrong to skip their daughters' open-house party after both daughters moved in with their boyfriends. The hosts compare it to the gay-wedding question. Opinions split: some would go to preserve the relationship while being clear about disagreement; one host argues moving in together is an unwise risk but not in itself a sin, so there is little ground to refuse. They debate where the biblical line sits — intercourse versus acting as husband and wife outside marriage — and conclude the finer distinctions matter less than whether the daughters care about God's heart on the matter. The secular answer ('nothing to be gained by skipping, but something to lose') reaches the same conclusion as the go-side hosts for entirely different reasons, which the hosts find interesting rather than disqualifying.
More on Boundaries
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Dear LFTP: the mother-in-law moved in
- My mother-in-law moved in seven months ago and it’s been difficult — how can we sort this out?
The last letter comes from a wife whose mother-in-law moved in seven months ago with no boundaries, rising bills, unpaid prescriptions, and open disrespect.
From No. 604 · Rearview Mirror
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Dear LFTP: Ralph calls three or four times a week
- How can I get my retired friend Ralph to call less frequently without being rude?
The letter: 'Ralph,' a longtime best friend, retired and is bored, so he calls three or four times a week 'even when there's nothing new to talk about,' rehashing the same things; subtle hints haven't worked; letting it go to voicemail just earns a callback request.
From No. 602 · Relationship Counseling
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Dear LFTP: the senior-living handshake letter, and the close
- How can a senior-living resident politely decline the dining-room manager's handshakes?
Mike reads the second Dear LFTP letter: a senior-living resident whose dining-room manager (Manny) shakes hands at residents' tables, and who dodges with wet or greasy hands — how to decline politely?
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Dear LFTP: the fiance who games until 5AM
- What should the letter-writer do about her fiance's all-night gaming habit?
Mike reads a Dear LFTP letter from a woman engaged five years to Dustin, who games from 10PM to 5AM, skips chores, and gives her no attention; talking has not helped since 'he grew up gaming.'
From No. 598 · Emphasis | Accountability, Worship and Praying with Strangers