Dear LFTP: the husband who visits his mother every day
- How can I get my husband to understand how I feel about his daily visits to his negative mother without hurting her feelings?
A host reads a Dear LFTP letter from a woman married just over a year whose husband visits his negative mother almost daily, twenty minutes away, leaving the wife agitated; she asks how to make her husband understand without hurting his mother's feelings. The hosts judge the core issue to be the husband's priorities rather than the mother's negativity: one proposes a deliberately awkward 'naked and feel no shame' Genesis 2 framing to rattle the husband's perspective, and they agree the wife should address time together with her husband rather than litigate the mother's behavior. The secular answer advises she need not accompany him more than a couple times a week, which the hosts mock as a blatant lie to his mother.
More on Boundaries
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Dear LFTP: the mother-in-law moved in
- My mother-in-law moved in seven months ago and it’s been difficult — how can we sort this out?
The last letter comes from a wife whose mother-in-law moved in seven months ago with no boundaries, rising bills, unpaid prescriptions, and open disrespect.
From No. 604 · Rearview Mirror
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Dear LFTP: Ralph calls three or four times a week
- How can I get my retired friend Ralph to call less frequently without being rude?
The letter: 'Ralph,' a longtime best friend, retired and is bored, so he calls three or four times a week 'even when there's nothing new to talk about,' rehashing the same things; subtle hints haven't worked; letting it go to voicemail just earns a callback request.
From No. 602 · Relationship Counseling
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Dear LFTP: the senior-living handshake letter, and the close
- How can a senior-living resident politely decline the dining-room manager's handshakes?
Mike reads the second Dear LFTP letter: a senior-living resident whose dining-room manager (Manny) shakes hands at residents' tables, and who dodges with wet or greasy hands — how to decline politely?
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Dear LFTP: the fiance who games until 5AM
- What should the letter-writer do about her fiance's all-night gaming habit?
Mike reads a Dear LFTP letter from a woman engaged five years to Dustin, who games from 10PM to 5AM, skips chores, and gives her no attention; talking has not helped since 'he grew up gaming.'
From No. 598 · Emphasis | Accountability, Worship and Praying with Strangers