Dear LFTP: husband cheating — confront now or later?
- Should I confront my husband now about suspected cheating, or wait to catch him in the act?
A host addressed on-air as Mike (speaker-1) reads a Dear LFTP letter from a woman nearly 100% sure her husband is cheating: she tracked his phone GPS, found a female acquaintance lives where he was, and asks whether to confront him now or catch him at the house. The hosts advise confronting him calmly the next time she sees him — no theatrics, no ambush — saying the calmer she is, the more he will recognize his own failure; they also say she must consider how far she is willing to forgive and whether the marriage matters to her. They read the 'Secular' answer (consult a family-law attorney to learn her rights and use the financial cost of divorce as leverage) and reject it as blackmail, not a foundation for reconciliation.
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Dear LFTP: the $4,200 loan that never came back
- How do I get past the sadness over the $4,200 loan my friend never repaid — do I just let it go?
The final Dear LFTP letter: a year ago a supposed friend asked to borrow money — her husband had left the country to renew his visa, her car was repossessed, she had no way to get to work.
From No. 603 · Found Out
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Dear LFTP: the stolen college fund and telling the 90-year-olds
- Should I tell my 90-year-old parents that their grandson stole my granddaughter's college fund?
Ben hands to Mike, who reads a grandmother's letter: her son helped himself to the college money the great-grandparents set aside for her granddaughter; she fears telling her parents, in their nineties, could shock them into a stroke.
From No. 586 · Nothing Personal
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Dear LFTP: forty years of a cheating wife and a temptation
- Would it be wrong to rekindle an old friendship for intimacy when my wife has cheated for forty years?
A man approaching his fortieth anniversary writes that his wife has always been a serial cheater, a secret he kept to protect the children's view of her; with retirement and a sexless marriage he asks whether rekindling things with old female friends would be wrong.
From No. 581 · Silly Rabbit | Christianity, Culture, and Navigating Social Expectations
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Dear LFTP: the stalker ex-girlfriend
- How do I get my stalker ex-girlfriend to leave me alone?
Mike reads a letter from a man whose ex-girlfriend keeps trying to get him back, even stalking him, after he blocked her number.