Dear LFTP: the boyfriend who won't lock the door
- My boyfriend never locks our doors even though I've told him I don't feel safe — am I overreacting, and how do I talk to him about it without sounding like a nag?
A listener living with her boyfriend for several years writes that he never locks the front or balcony doors, she repeatedly says she doesn't feel safe, and his answer is 'I'm here. Nothing is gonna happen' — she asks if she is overreacting and how to raise it without sounding like a nag. The room agrees she is not overreacting: a man's job in the relationship is to make her feel safe, and locking the door costs two seconds. The 'Secular' answer read: she is not overreacting, the boyfriend thinks he is a superhero, and she should lock the doors herself — which one host endorses with a keypad-lock-and-withhold-the-code joke.
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Dear LFTP: the grandma, 'Libby,' and the weight comment
- Was I wrong to mention my concern about Libby's weight?
Mike reads the letter: she moved 2,000 miles to be near her daughter's family; granddaughter 'Libby' was diagnosed with a medical condition and put on weight.
From No. 602 · Relationship Counseling
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Dear LFTP: the fiance who games until 5AM
- What should the letter-writer do about her fiance's all-night gaming habit?
Mike reads a Dear LFTP letter from a woman engaged five years to Dustin, who games from 10PM to 5AM, skips chores, and gives her no attention; talking has not helped since 'he grew up gaming.'
From No. 598 · Emphasis | Accountability, Worship and Praying with Strangers
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Dear LFTP 1: the fiance who impulse-bought Butch the dog
- Dear LFTP: my fiance impulse-bought a dog I did not want, and I resent him — what do I do?
Mike reads the first letter: a woman's fiance talked her into "just looking" at puppies, then put money on the counter over her objections — now they have Butch, an active breed neither has time for, and she resents him.
From No. 595 · Trust But Verify
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Dear LFTP: Martha, John, and Jerry
- How should a woman in love with her ex's brother tell friends, family, and his parents?
A host reads the first Dear LFTP letter: Martha dated John for two years, then he kept living with her six months after the breakup; John is an emotionally and verbally abusive alcoholic who burned every bridge.
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