Dear LFTP: 17-year-old with a secret boyfriend and a promise to her parents
- How can I move in with my boyfriend without disappointing him or hurting my parents' feelings?
Mike reads a Dear LFTP letter from a 17-year-old with a 20-year-old boyfriend her parents don't know about; he wants her to move into an apartment with him at 18, but she promised her mother and father she would take care of them. Mike says there isn't enough information to judge, but tells her not to promise the boyfriend anything and to stop hiding him from her parents. Ben distinguishes the cases: if her parents genuinely depend on her care, abandoning them would be outrageous; if not, the promise itself is ridiculous. Secular's advice, read from the column: stop hiding the relationship, become self-supporting before moving out so she isn't on the street if things go wrong, and children aren't put on earth to spend their adult lives caring for parents. The hosts agree but keep returning to how little detail the letter gave, illustrated by a giraffe-poop analogy about needing the right questions before prescribing.
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