Dear LFTP: 51, newly divorced, falling for the hookup
- How do I end a hookup relationship I'm falling in love with after my divorce?
A 51-year-old listener, divorced four months and living in a new state, joined a hookup site and is having 'mind-blowing' sex with a 33-year-old who claimed to live 30 minutes away but arrived in ten ('visiting a friend in the neighborhood'). She's falling in love and doesn't know how to end it. The hosts' unanimous advice: end it now - 'you have the right to just go, nope' - get off the site, and don't mistake the post-divorce high for a foundation. The Secular answer: she'll regain equilibrium eventually and then know how to end it; the hosts mock the implied 'in the meantime, keep having sex.'
More on Boundaries
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Dear LFTP: the mother-in-law moved in
- My mother-in-law moved in seven months ago and it’s been difficult — how can we sort this out?
The last letter comes from a wife whose mother-in-law moved in seven months ago with no boundaries, rising bills, unpaid prescriptions, and open disrespect.
From No. 604 · Rearview Mirror
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Dear LFTP: Ralph calls three or four times a week
- How can I get my retired friend Ralph to call less frequently without being rude?
The letter: 'Ralph,' a longtime best friend, retired and is bored, so he calls three or four times a week 'even when there's nothing new to talk about,' rehashing the same things; subtle hints haven't worked; letting it go to voicemail just earns a callback request.
From No. 602 · Relationship Counseling
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Dear LFTP: the senior-living handshake letter, and the close
- How can a senior-living resident politely decline the dining-room manager's handshakes?
Mike reads the second Dear LFTP letter: a senior-living resident whose dining-room manager (Manny) shakes hands at residents' tables, and who dodges with wet or greasy hands — how to decline politely?
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Dear LFTP: the fiance who games until 5AM
- What should the letter-writer do about her fiance's all-night gaming habit?
Mike reads a Dear LFTP letter from a woman engaged five years to Dustin, who games from 10PM to 5AM, skips chores, and gives her no attention; talking has not helped since 'he grew up gaming.'
From No. 598 · Emphasis | Accountability, Worship and Praying with Strangers