Dear LFTP: announcing a pregnancy after a family loss

• Is it insensitive to announce my pregnancy on social media when my husband's cousin just lost her baby?

A pregnant listener whose husband's cousin lost a baby girl to an unrepairable heart defect four days after birth asks whether announcing her own pregnancy on social media would be insensitive. Dan advises reaching out to the cousin personally first, then celebrating the child as a gift from God. Nathaniel delivers a hot take: never post anything of substance on social media — if people matter, call or text them. Debate follows about whether there is a healthy place for casual acquaintances, with Dan's lawn-mowing column-fan story offered as evidence that small kindnesses matter. The final advice: tell the cousin directly, do not take a negative reaction personally, and treat them like humans. The Secular answer aligns: let the cousin hear it from you first.