Dear LFTP: 'the most single married man I know'

• My husband of almost fifty years keeps forgetting my presence, most recently excluding me from a family birthday dinner. What should I be doing differently?

A listener married almost fifty years says her husband turns off lights, heat, and TV while she is still using them, and planned a birthday dinner with their son without telling her; she asks what she should do differently. The hosts find him an aloof self-centered doofus but wonder why a fifty-year problem was never confronted directly; they float whether cognitive decline is a possibility and note a man that inconsiderate needs to change. Mid-discussion the studio church phone rings in the middle of the night, which Nathaniel answers. The Secular answer: if the behavior is lifelong, accept he is unusually self-centered; if recent, get him medically evaluated; otherwise fend for yourself and keep a flashlight handy.