Red flags 3-5: healthy conflict, trust, and spiritual growth
The hosts work through the remaining red flags: no healthy conflict (learn to fight fair — iron sharpening iron, not marshmallow iron; pacifist shutdown is not fair fighting), inability to trust (DMs, snapping exes, liking bikini pics — 'what kind of arrogant doofus'), and not growing spiritually together. The verdict on conflict is that healthy couples do not always fight fair but come to fairness quicker, and on trust the advice is blunt: if you cannot trust them, it is over, though sometimes the problem is possessiveness. Listeners are invited to text more red flags to the complaint line.
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