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Dear LFTP December 5, 2022 · 1:01:22 · 8 min

Dear LFTP: husband hugs every woman but his wife for 23 years

  • Am I being too sensitive about my husband hugging other women after withholding affection for 23 years?

Mike reads a Dear LFTP letter from a woman whose love language is physical touch: for 23 years her husband hugged every woman but never her, and though he has recently improved, it still feels like a knife. The hosts agree she is not too sensitive — hugging is a God-designed physical exchange, and a man who needs no hug from his wife for twenty years while hugging others is suspicious. One host questions whether the full story was ever actually discussed with the husband over two decades. The Secular answer agrees with the hosts: get therapy for the justified hurt and anger, calling the husband passive-aggressive and manipulative.

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