Dear LFTP: the vacation-ruining, heavy-drinking husband
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A listener loves to travel but loathes traveling with her anxious, mean, heavy-drinking husband, who promised good behavior then 'flipped the mean switch' before the airport — and told the kids she left alone because she doesn't like them. The hosts split: one says the marriage itself is the shambles and vacations are halfway down the list; Dan says it's a common pre-vacation pattern and both just need to relax and lower expectations. Consensus advice: communicate expectations explicitly and give grace for humans being humans (illustrated by a lake-vs-minigolf anniversary story and Dan's 7-a.m.-means-9-a.m. departure rule). The Secular answer tells her to travel without him.
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