Dear LFTP: the nightgown photo posted on Facebook
- Is it common decency to ask before posting someone's photo on Facebook, and should she have let it go?
Boova reads a Dear LFTP letter from a retired woman whose husband's fifty-year-old daughter posted a waist-up photo of her in her nightgown on Facebook after promising a neck-up-only shot, asking whether common decency requires asking first. The hosts' answer: you could have said give me five minutes and changed clothes, and now let it go, because the only feedback was former clients saying you looked happy. Dan says he always asks permission before posting family. The room devolves into the tie-dye muumuu bit, the old-people Facebook privacy-post meme, and the verdict that the privacy game is up: grocery stores, hotels, and bystanders film everyone anyway, so there is no reason to care about an average photo. The secular answer says to ask the daughter to take it down without expecting compliance and to stop posing for her.
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Dear LFTP: the mother-in-law moved in
- My mother-in-law moved in seven months ago and it’s been difficult — how can we sort this out?
The last letter comes from a wife whose mother-in-law moved in seven months ago with no boundaries, rising bills, unpaid prescriptions, and open disrespect.
From No. 604 · Rearview Mirror
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Dear LFTP: Ralph calls three or four times a week
- How can I get my retired friend Ralph to call less frequently without being rude?
The letter: 'Ralph,' a longtime best friend, retired and is bored, so he calls three or four times a week 'even when there's nothing new to talk about,' rehashing the same things; subtle hints haven't worked; letting it go to voicemail just earns a callback request.
From No. 602 · Relationship Counseling
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Dear LFTP: the senior-living handshake letter, and the close
- How can a senior-living resident politely decline the dining-room manager's handshakes?
Mike reads the second Dear LFTP letter: a senior-living resident whose dining-room manager (Manny) shakes hands at residents' tables, and who dodges with wet or greasy hands — how to decline politely?
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Dear LFTP: the fiance who games until 5AM
- What should the letter-writer do about her fiance's all-night gaming habit?
Mike reads a Dear LFTP letter from a woman engaged five years to Dustin, who games from 10PM to 5AM, skips chores, and gives her no attention; talking has not helped since 'he grew up gaming.'
From No. 598 · Emphasis | Accountability, Worship and Praying with Strangers