Dear LFTP: the disappointed grandpa and his estate
- Should the disappointed grandpa tell his family he is donating his estate to charity?
Mike (speaker-0, named at seg-00104 and seg-00250) reads the 'Disappointed grandpa' letter: a retired grandpa whose 50-year-old daughter 'hitched her wagon to an alky' and whose grandsons are scattered, lazy adults; convinced his home and possessions are their planned retirement, he has decided to donate his estate to charity (Pathway Church) and asks whether to tell them now or surprise them after the funeral. The hosts judge the letter self-centered — he reads the family as valuing only his money, which reveals what he values — and advise investing in the relationships with low expectations rather than managing the money. The Secular answer ('Zacula says') advises putting everything in writing with a lawyer and letting the lawyer serve as the buffer.
More on Forgiveness
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Dear LFTP: the $4,200 loan that never came back
- How do I get past the sadness over the $4,200 loan my friend never repaid — do I just let it go?
The final Dear LFTP letter: a year ago a supposed friend asked to borrow money — her husband had left the country to renew his visa, her car was repossessed, she had no way to get to work.
From No. 603 · Found Out
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Dear LFTP: the stolen college fund and telling the 90-year-olds
- Should I tell my 90-year-old parents that their grandson stole my granddaughter's college fund?
Ben hands to Mike, who reads a grandmother's letter: her son helped himself to the college money the great-grandparents set aside for her granddaughter; she fears telling her parents, in their nineties, could shock them into a stroke.
From No. 586 · Nothing Personal
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Dear LFTP: forty years of a cheating wife and a temptation
- Would it be wrong to rekindle an old friendship for intimacy when my wife has cheated for forty years?
A man approaching his fortieth anniversary writes that his wife has always been a serial cheater, a secret he kept to protect the children's view of her; with retirement and a sexless marriage he asks whether rekindling things with old female friends would be wrong.
From No. 581 · Silly Rabbit | Christianity, Culture, and Navigating Social Expectations
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Dear LFTP: the stalker ex-girlfriend
- How do I get my stalker ex-girlfriend to leave me alone?
Mike reads a letter from a man whose ex-girlfriend keeps trying to get him back, even stalking him, after he blocked her number.