Dear LFTP: accused of cheating by a wounded pregnant girlfriend
- My pregnant girlfriend accuses me of cheating after her abusive past - what should I do?
Mike reads a letter from a man whose pregnant girlfriend Jessica accuses him of cheating after he napped at his grandparents' house on a day off; she survived a nine-year abusive relationship full of infidelity and now bars him from the delivery room. Ben is blunt: by moving this fast physically, he put her in a position she hadn't healed enough to handle - "you bought this farm" - and now owes her extraordinary patience, transparency (location sharing, shared passcodes), and slow trust-rebuilding. Mike adds: ask what she needs as proof, walk through every accusation with grace, and consider couples counseling. The Secular answer agrees the missed call was inconsiderate but a mistake, nothing more.
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