Dear LFTP: the dating red-flag letter
- I ghosted a pushy date who won't stop contacting me and feel guilty ignoring him — what should I do?
Boova reads a letter from a woman who, after coming out of her introvert shell, dated a man who showed red flags from the first date, pushed to get her alone, ignored her stated health problems, and after she faded out began contacting her on every social media app, phone, and email. She feels guilty ignoring him. The hosts advise her to be explicit rather than fade: tell him directly she is not interested and to stop contacting her, since clarity also documents a stalking case if needed; Emma suggests 'you're weird, I'm sick, bye bye.' The secular answer calls ghosting bad form, prescribes a clear text or email telling him to stop, and says if he persists she may have a stalker and should file a police report.
More on Boundaries
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Dear LFTP: the mother-in-law moved in
- My mother-in-law moved in seven months ago and it’s been difficult — how can we sort this out?
The last letter comes from a wife whose mother-in-law moved in seven months ago with no boundaries, rising bills, unpaid prescriptions, and open disrespect.
From No. 604 · Rearview Mirror
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Dear LFTP: Ralph calls three or four times a week
- How can I get my retired friend Ralph to call less frequently without being rude?
The letter: 'Ralph,' a longtime best friend, retired and is bored, so he calls three or four times a week 'even when there's nothing new to talk about,' rehashing the same things; subtle hints haven't worked; letting it go to voicemail just earns a callback request.
From No. 602 · Relationship Counseling
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Dear LFTP: the senior-living handshake letter, and the close
- How can a senior-living resident politely decline the dining-room manager's handshakes?
Mike reads the second Dear LFTP letter: a senior-living resident whose dining-room manager (Manny) shakes hands at residents' tables, and who dodges with wet or greasy hands — how to decline politely?
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Dear LFTP: the fiance who games until 5AM
- What should the letter-writer do about her fiance's all-night gaming habit?
Mike reads a Dear LFTP letter from a woman engaged five years to Dustin, who games from 10PM to 5AM, skips chores, and gives her no attention; talking has not helped since 'he grew up gaming.'
From No. 598 · Emphasis | Accountability, Worship and Praying with Strangers