Dear LFTP: 49, divorced, and living with mom
- How do I get my overbearing mother to back off while I am living with her?
Mike reads a letter from a 49-year-old recent divorcee staying with his mother, who makes him a budget, opens his mail, and treats him like a five-year-old; he reports severe anxiety and an inability to tell her to back off. The hosts' advice: he chose to move in, so he should move out or speak up, get a post office box, and stop being surprised that a lifelong overprotective mom acts the same in her own house. They reframe the anxiety as 'throwing punches at the wind' versus naming a clear dislike with clear options. They read the Secular answer (move out, PO box, therapist, speak up) and critique its 'help you to control it' phrasing.
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Dear LFTP: the mother-in-law moved in
- My mother-in-law moved in seven months ago and it’s been difficult — how can we sort this out?
The last letter comes from a wife whose mother-in-law moved in seven months ago with no boundaries, rising bills, unpaid prescriptions, and open disrespect.
From No. 604 · Rearview Mirror
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Dear LFTP: Ralph calls three or four times a week
- How can I get my retired friend Ralph to call less frequently without being rude?
The letter: 'Ralph,' a longtime best friend, retired and is bored, so he calls three or four times a week 'even when there's nothing new to talk about,' rehashing the same things; subtle hints haven't worked; letting it go to voicemail just earns a callback request.
From No. 602 · Relationship Counseling
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Dear LFTP: the senior-living handshake letter, and the close
- How can a senior-living resident politely decline the dining-room manager's handshakes?
Mike reads the second Dear LFTP letter: a senior-living resident whose dining-room manager (Manny) shakes hands at residents' tables, and who dodges with wet or greasy hands — how to decline politely?
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Dear LFTP: the fiance who games until 5AM
- What should the letter-writer do about her fiance's all-night gaming habit?
Mike reads a Dear LFTP letter from a woman engaged five years to Dustin, who games from 10PM to 5AM, skips chores, and gives her no attention; talking has not helped since 'he grew up gaming.'
From No. 598 · Emphasis | Accountability, Worship and Praying with Strangers