Dear LFTP: the album that slighted the stepmom
- Am I being unreasonable to ask my stepdaughter to reprint a photo album that slighted me?
The second Dear LFTP letter: a woman's stepdaughter Annie made her dad a photo album including his parents, grandparents, and pictures from his first marriage to Annie's mom — including their wedding photo and two "loving couple" shots — and the stepmom feels slighted seeing it displayed in their home, asking if she is unreasonable to request a reprint. The hosts land on "yes, unreasonable": it was the daughter's gift about her dad's life, the first wife is part of that story, and demanding changes would poison the relationship ("the juice ain't worth the squeeze"). Practical outs are offered — add 8x10s of your own wedding on either side; the book isn't the be-all representation of the family. The Secular answer: explain to Annie you felt slighted and why. A host notes his own dad was married to a non-mother for twenty-some years and he wouldn't rewrite that history either.
More on Forgiveness
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Dear LFTP: the $4,200 loan that never came back
- How do I get past the sadness over the $4,200 loan my friend never repaid — do I just let it go?
The final Dear LFTP letter: a year ago a supposed friend asked to borrow money — her husband had left the country to renew his visa, her car was repossessed, she had no way to get to work.
From No. 603 · Found Out
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Dear LFTP: the stolen college fund and telling the 90-year-olds
- Should I tell my 90-year-old parents that their grandson stole my granddaughter's college fund?
Ben hands to Mike, who reads a grandmother's letter: her son helped himself to the college money the great-grandparents set aside for her granddaughter; she fears telling her parents, in their nineties, could shock them into a stroke.
From No. 586 · Nothing Personal
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Dear LFTP: forty years of a cheating wife and a temptation
- Would it be wrong to rekindle an old friendship for intimacy when my wife has cheated for forty years?
A man approaching his fortieth anniversary writes that his wife has always been a serial cheater, a secret he kept to protect the children's view of her; with retirement and a sexless marriage he asks whether rekindling things with old female friends would be wrong.
From No. 581 · Silly Rabbit | Christianity, Culture, and Navigating Social Expectations
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Dear LFTP: the stalker ex-girlfriend
- How do I get my stalker ex-girlfriend to leave me alone?
Mike reads a letter from a man whose ex-girlfriend keeps trying to get him back, even stalking him, after he blocked her number.