Dear LFTP: the high-school sweetheart and the oil-rig romance scam
- What should I do about my high-school sweetheart, who cut me off after I warned her that her online relationship is a romance scam?
Mike reads a letter from a man in his sixties who, after his fortieth high school reunion, reconnected on Facebook with his old high-school sweetheart, helped her financially for years, and has now been cut off after warning her that her long-distance "oil rig offshore worker" is a romance scammer — she says it is true love and they are getting married without ever having met. The hosts read it as an emotional affair the writer should never have entered, advise cutting it off entirely, and note the Secular answer — that this is a common scam and he should not be surprised when it collapses — is really just a preemptive "told you so."
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The oil-rig offshore worker
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Secular's romance-scam advice: don't be surprised
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Dear LFTP: the spontaneous husband and the 7 p.m. date
- My spontaneous husband starts a project at 5 p.m., fails to cancel our 7 p.m. date, and shows up late in work clothes. Please advise.
Mike reads the second letter: a planner wife of two years whose spontaneous husband started a household project at 5 p.m., agreed to cancel their 7 p.m. date, never told the other couple, then showed up 45 minutes late in work clothes.
From No. 601 · Humble Faithful Idiot
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Dear LFTP: the basement musician whose wife never asks him to play
- Am I asking too much to expect my wife to ask me to play, or should I just let it go and stop writing songs?
Mike reads a letter from a married-31-years basement musician and songwriter whose non-musical wife has never once asked him to play — he wonders if he's asking too much or should stop writing.
From No. 597 · Maybe A Word From God
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Dear LFTP: the reluctant grandmother
- Am I wrong to prefer not to drive an hour and a half to visit my husband's grandbabies?
Mike reads a Dear LFTP letter from a 56-year-old married twelve years who doesn't want to drive an hour and a half to visit her husband's grandbabies — she's 'not into babies or children' — and can't understand why he won't stop asking.
From No. 596 · Mr. Prayer Closet
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Dear LFTP: the incarcerated husband
- My husband is serving a life sentence and I have met someone new — what should I do?
- How would you counsel the incarcerated husband who wants to divorce his wife to free her from the marriage?
Mike reads a heavier letter: the writer's husband is serving a life sentence with the possibility of parole, having turned himself in a year and a half ago for a crime from…
From No. 596 · Mr. Prayer Closet