Dear LFTP 2: the wedding-weekend dinner gap
- Was it appropriate for wedding hosts to leave out-of-town guests on their own for Saturday dinner, and should we say something to the groom's family?
Ben reads a letter about an out-of-town wedding running Friday to Sunday where the bride's family told some invitees they were on their own for Saturday dinner. The hosts conclude the letter-writer simply showed up too early — the Saturday dinner was presumably the rehearsal dinner they were not invited to — and advise against saying anything to the groom's family. The Secular answer agrees there is nothing to gain by pointing it out. Dan adds a humility coda from an apologetics speaker: do not presume people agree with you, and you will not be angry when they do not.
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Dear LFTP: the mother-in-law moved in
- My mother-in-law moved in seven months ago and it’s been difficult — how can we sort this out?
The last letter comes from a wife whose mother-in-law moved in seven months ago with no boundaries, rising bills, unpaid prescriptions, and open disrespect.
From No. 604 · Rearview Mirror
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Dear LFTP: the single man and the holiday cliques
- Would it be wrong for the lonely single man to start declining holiday invitations?
The first Dear LFTP letter: a single man, happy with his life and plenty of friends and family, dreads the holidays — at Thanksgiving and Christmas gatherings of 15 to 25 people,…
From No. 603 · Found Out
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Dear LFTP: the grandma, 'Libby,' and the weight comment
- Was I wrong to mention my concern about Libby's weight?
Mike reads the letter: she moved 2,000 miles to be near her daughter's family; granddaughter 'Libby' was diagnosed with a medical condition and put on weight.
From No. 602 · Relationship Counseling
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Dear LFTP: the Mimi letter ('Call Me Hoopi')
- Is it wrong for a grandmother to be upset when her grandson's other grandmother claims the same nickname?
Mike reads the Dear LFTP letter: a grandmother whose two-year-old grandson calls her Mimi — but the other grandmother claimed Mimi for herself, and the daughter-in-law is annoyed and doesn't want 'mom mom' either.