Dear LFTP: honest friendship, Melody, and 'love yourself'
- Do you have to love yourself before someone else can love you?
- Was I wrong to be honest with my friend Melody about her dating life?
Dear LFTP letter: a woman told her best friend Melody — separated, dating losers, posting a skimpy bikini dating profile — that she needs to love herself and change the photo; Melody stopped speaking to her. The hosts agree honesty was right: she asked for truth and got defensive because she wanted comfort, not change. This sparks a long Troy-vs-Mike debate on whether you must love yourself before others can love you, with Troy arguing it is unfair to ask love of someone who can't love themselves and Mike countering that none of us deserve love — that's the point.
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Dear LFTP: the man in his forties and the workplace breakup
- What should a stubborn man in his forties do about his awkward post-breakup workplace?
Mike reads the second Dear LFTP letter: a man in his forties whose workplace relationship ended badly now reads every walk-by as smiles and chattering and every desk approach as…
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Dear LFTP: the fiance who games until 5AM
- What should the letter-writer do about her fiance's all-night gaming habit?
Mike reads a Dear LFTP letter from a woman engaged five years to Dustin, who games from 10PM to 5AM, skips chores, and gives her no attention; talking has not helped since 'he grew up gaming.'
From No. 598 · Emphasis | Accountability, Worship and Praying with Strangers
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Dear LFTP #1: the boyfriend who wants to move in
- My boyfriend was evicted and wants to move in — should I let him?
Mike reads the first Dear LFTP letter: a listener's boyfriend was evicted and wants to move in with her; she sees red flags.
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Dear LFTP: the verbally abusive 'man of your dreams'
- I love him but don't want to be in another abusive relationship — what should I do?
Mike reads a letter from a woman dating a man who calls her stupid, threatens to leave, and mirrors her abusive ex; the hosts are blunt — 'the man of your dreams does not call you…
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