Dear LFTP: Eddie and the slow dance
- Is it wrong for my boyfriend Eddie to slow dance with other women at a wedding I was not invited to?
A listener writes that her boyfriend of one year, Eddie, was invited to the wedding of a waitress at a bar he frequents; she was not invited, and he wants to slow dance with others. The hosts answer: slow dancing isn't inherently wrong (a host slow-dances with his mom and keeps a polite distance from other women), but her request was reasonable; the real problem is going to a wedding without his girlfriend. Advice: ask if he can bring her; if not, don't go. Secular's answer: stop trying to control him, insecurity is unattractive, 'a dance is only a dance' — which the hosts find callous. A side story recounts an awkward refused-dance moment at a bar at age 20.
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Dear LFTP: the mother-in-law moved in
- My mother-in-law moved in seven months ago and it’s been difficult — how can we sort this out?
The last letter comes from a wife whose mother-in-law moved in seven months ago with no boundaries, rising bills, unpaid prescriptions, and open disrespect.
From No. 604 · Rearview Mirror
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Dear LFTP: Ralph calls three or four times a week
- How can I get my retired friend Ralph to call less frequently without being rude?
The letter: 'Ralph,' a longtime best friend, retired and is bored, so he calls three or four times a week 'even when there's nothing new to talk about,' rehashing the same things; subtle hints haven't worked; letting it go to voicemail just earns a callback request.
From No. 602 · Relationship Counseling
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Dear LFTP: the senior-living handshake letter, and the close
- How can a senior-living resident politely decline the dining-room manager's handshakes?
Mike reads the second Dear LFTP letter: a senior-living resident whose dining-room manager (Manny) shakes hands at residents' tables, and who dodges with wet or greasy hands — how to decline politely?
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Dear LFTP: the fiance who games until 5AM
- What should the letter-writer do about her fiance's all-night gaming habit?
Mike reads a Dear LFTP letter from a woman engaged five years to Dustin, who games from 10PM to 5AM, skips chores, and gives her no attention; talking has not helped since 'he grew up gaming.'
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