Dear LFTP: should I go on the girls trip with a friend I dislike?
- Should the listener keep going on the annual girls trip with a friend she has come to resent?
The advice segment opens with a listener letter: an annual girls-trip tradition with a close friend she now resents — phone on apps during outings, different drinking and restaurant tastes, budget gap, negativity about her job, finances, parents, and marriage. The hosts are blunt: she should be honest instead of letting grievances pile up ('you can be honest and hurt her feelings or you can lie and be miserable'), shorten the trip to a day trip, talk to her friend like a human being, and stop nitpicking ('of all the food out there, you share no taste?'). The 'Secular' answer is read and critiqued as diplomatic but evasive; the hosts reject the claim that she is unqualified to listen and call it a cop-out.
More on Boundaries
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Dear LFTP: the mother-in-law moved in
- My mother-in-law moved in seven months ago and it’s been difficult — how can we sort this out?
The last letter comes from a wife whose mother-in-law moved in seven months ago with no boundaries, rising bills, unpaid prescriptions, and open disrespect.
From No. 604 · Rearview Mirror
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Dear LFTP: Ralph calls three or four times a week
- How can I get my retired friend Ralph to call less frequently without being rude?
The letter: 'Ralph,' a longtime best friend, retired and is bored, so he calls three or four times a week 'even when there's nothing new to talk about,' rehashing the same things; subtle hints haven't worked; letting it go to voicemail just earns a callback request.
From No. 602 · Relationship Counseling
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Dear LFTP: the senior-living handshake letter, and the close
- How can a senior-living resident politely decline the dining-room manager's handshakes?
Mike reads the second Dear LFTP letter: a senior-living resident whose dining-room manager (Manny) shakes hands at residents' tables, and who dodges with wet or greasy hands — how to decline politely?
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Dear LFTP: the fiance who games until 5AM
- What should the letter-writer do about her fiance's all-night gaming habit?
Mike reads a Dear LFTP letter from a woman engaged five years to Dustin, who games from 10PM to 5AM, skips chores, and gives her no attention; talking has not helped since 'he grew up gaming.'
From No. 598 · Emphasis | Accountability, Worship and Praying with Strangers