Dear LFTP: husband drinking until 6AM with friends' sister
- My husband drinks until 6AM with three brothers and their sister; how should I handle it?
A letter from a wife: her husband hangs out with three brothers who drink, and their sister sometimes joins; he was out from 11PM to 6AM drinking and partying, and ignores her concerns. The hosts say the combination of drinking, another woman, late nights, and ignoring the wife's stated boundary is the problem — stop going, or go as a couple. A host addressed as Dan admits hypocrisy by way of his own Monday nights with the guys and his all-night VR zombie session, but notes his wife never objected; the group lands on not putting oneself in a position to do irreversible damage. The Secular answer is looser, suggesting she may be overreacting.
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Dear LFTP: the mother-in-law moved in
- My mother-in-law moved in seven months ago and it’s been difficult — how can we sort this out?
The last letter comes from a wife whose mother-in-law moved in seven months ago with no boundaries, rising bills, unpaid prescriptions, and open disrespect.
From No. 604 · Rearview Mirror
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Dear LFTP: Ralph calls three or four times a week
- How can I get my retired friend Ralph to call less frequently without being rude?
The letter: 'Ralph,' a longtime best friend, retired and is bored, so he calls three or four times a week 'even when there's nothing new to talk about,' rehashing the same things; subtle hints haven't worked; letting it go to voicemail just earns a callback request.
From No. 602 · Relationship Counseling
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Dear LFTP: the senior-living handshake letter, and the close
- How can a senior-living resident politely decline the dining-room manager's handshakes?
Mike reads the second Dear LFTP letter: a senior-living resident whose dining-room manager (Manny) shakes hands at residents' tables, and who dodges with wet or greasy hands — how to decline politely?
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Dear LFTP: the fiance who games until 5AM
- What should the letter-writer do about her fiance's all-night gaming habit?
Mike reads a Dear LFTP letter from a woman engaged five years to Dustin, who games from 10PM to 5AM, skips chores, and gives her no attention; talking has not helped since 'he grew up gaming.'
From No. 598 · Emphasis | Accountability, Worship and Praying with Strangers