Dear LFTP: the South Carolina babysitting letter
- Should I visit my friend in South Carolina if I'll be expected to babysit grandchildren I don't want to watch?
Mike reads the single Dear LFTP letter: a woman invited for a long weekend at her friend's new South Carolina home, with a still-unhealed sprained ankle, balks when the friend expects her to babysit grandchildren while the daughter and son-in-law go out, a pattern from before the move. Boova calls it ridiculous on both sides; Dan, speaking as a grandparent, wouldn't crash someone else's grandkid time and would just visit another week ("Disco Dan"). Secular's answer is to overdramatize the ankle and lie about the real reason. The table's verdict: be honest but not cruel, don't press on the callus, just ask for a different week; Dan jokes about a March hurricane-relief trip taking the kids to a work camp, which everyone agrees needs a better name.
More on Boundaries
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Dear LFTP: the mother-in-law moved in
- My mother-in-law moved in seven months ago and it’s been difficult — how can we sort this out?
The last letter comes from a wife whose mother-in-law moved in seven months ago with no boundaries, rising bills, unpaid prescriptions, and open disrespect.
From No. 604 · Rearview Mirror
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Dear LFTP: Ralph calls three or four times a week
- How can I get my retired friend Ralph to call less frequently without being rude?
The letter: 'Ralph,' a longtime best friend, retired and is bored, so he calls three or four times a week 'even when there's nothing new to talk about,' rehashing the same things; subtle hints haven't worked; letting it go to voicemail just earns a callback request.
From No. 602 · Relationship Counseling
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Dear LFTP: the senior-living handshake letter, and the close
- How can a senior-living resident politely decline the dining-room manager's handshakes?
Mike reads the second Dear LFTP letter: a senior-living resident whose dining-room manager (Manny) shakes hands at residents' tables, and who dodges with wet or greasy hands — how to decline politely?
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Dear LFTP: the fiance who games until 5AM
- What should the letter-writer do about her fiance's all-night gaming habit?
Mike reads a Dear LFTP letter from a woman engaged five years to Dustin, who games from 10PM to 5AM, skips chores, and gives her no attention; talking has not helped since 'he grew up gaming.'
From No. 598 · Emphasis | Accountability, Worship and Praying with Strangers