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Mike reads the letter: the writer's widowed brother is remarrying; their 89-year-old mother lives in his added-on apartment; his cruel email attacked the writer's facial expressions and mannerisms — "I felt like he had stuck a knife through my heart." Should she skip the wedding? Ben: first check the mirror — are you disingenuous? Then stop giving jerks so much influence; if anything they say is true, be refined by it; if not, let it go. Dan: take what you get from the relationship and have your community elsewhere. Mike: be the bigger person; if he wants you there, go — it is his day, act for his good. The Secular answer: the brother was cruel; skipping is understandable, but do not let him drive you from the rest of the family.
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