Dear LFTP: two feuding friends at the holidays

• How do I handle Thanksgiving and Christmas dinners when two friends I love are now feuding?

A listener who hosts two childless, mutually hostile friends at Thanksgiving and Christmas asks whether to invite both, neither, or alternate after their summer row. The hosts advise not starting with alternating holidays but first sitting the women down with an honest ultimatum — 'if you can't get along, I can't have you both at the same event' — and letting the resulting pressure be a catalyst toward reconciliation, since the deeper problem is the feuding friendship itself, not the seating chart. The 'secular answer' recommends alternating holidays.