Dear LFTP: 'Maid of Honor Fails to Follow Shower Instructions'
- Who is in the wrong — the bride or the maid of honor who won't follow the shower instructions?
The second Dear LFTP letter, titled 'Maid of Honor Fails to Follow Shower Instructions' (not a bathing problem — a bridal shower problem): the bride was clear she didn't want a surprise shower and wanted to be kept informed; the maid of honor planned a surprise shower for 20 anyway, and when she learned the bride wanted about 40, she got upset, said the bride shouldn't be involved in the planning ('not proper etiquette'), refused the bride's offer to cover expenses, and has now foregone any role in planning it. 'Who's in the wrong here?' The room: 'whose wedding is it?' — 'she won't do what I tell her... she decided to not plan it at all. High five. How much does a problem solved banner cost?' The dudes admit they're unqualified ('this is a room full of dudes'), but land on: if the bride has a thing in mind and you want to love her well, do that thing. Comedy detours: Applebee's as the shower venue ('Dove soap and a loofah'), Silas at the bar with a Diet Coke ('anybody want to split a two for 20?'), Texas Roadhouse being too expensive with beef that's 'not any good,' and the theory that the real problem is the fuchsia bridesmaid dress or a pre-wedding tattoo. The Secular answer: she is in the wrong — unwilling to coordinate or let the bride pay — and 'maybe she's not maid of honor material'; the hosts add: just plan it yourself, 'everybody meet at 6:30, done and done.'
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