Dear LFTP: the 16-year-old struggling to make friends
- I'm a 16-year-old girl who struggles to have a social life and has anxiety — how can I approach people and make friends?
A 16-year-old girl who doesn't connect with kids her age, whose friends vanished after COVID, and whose anxiety and non-native English make approaching people hard, asks for advice. Emma relates from homeschool life: her co-op lunch-table story — she ate alone until basketball girls invited her to sit with them, and she kept declining until she accepted — plus relying on church friends rather than chasing a crowd, and being herself so people can see her. The host adds: rejecters are jerks you don't want anyway, high-school barriers are fake, join things you enjoy, get a part-time job, compliment people — and church communities welcome you.
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Dear LFTP: 'Maid of Honor Fails to Follow Shower Instructions'
- Who is in the wrong — the bride or the maid of honor who won't follow the shower instructions?
The second Dear LFTP letter, titled 'Maid of Honor Fails to Follow Shower Instructions' (not a bathing problem — a bridal shower problem): the bride was clear she didn't want a…
From No. 603 · Found Out
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Dear LFTP: the $4,200 loan that never came back
- How do I get past the sadness over the $4,200 loan my friend never repaid — do I just let it go?
The final Dear LFTP letter: a year ago a supposed friend asked to borrow money — her husband had left the country to renew his visa, her car was repossessed, she had no way to get to work.
From No. 603 · Found Out
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Dear LFTP: Ralph calls three or four times a week
- How can I get my retired friend Ralph to call less frequently without being rude?
The letter: 'Ralph,' a longtime best friend, retired and is bored, so he calls three or four times a week 'even when there's nothing new to talk about,' rehashing the same things; subtle hints haven't worked; letting it go to voicemail just earns a callback request.
From No. 602 · Relationship Counseling
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Dear LFTP: the birthday-gift pressure
- My friends insist on giving me birthday presents I can't reciprocate. Shouldn't my wishes have been respected since it's my birthday?
Mike reads the first Dear LFTP letter: a part-time worker paying her own health insurance asked friends to skip presents at a triple birthday dinner; they refused, saying she needn't reciprocate.
From No. 601 · Humble Faithful Idiot