Dear LFTP: vulgar phone talk and a ghosted friend

Mike reads a letter from a woman in her mid-sixties whose friend Cheryl speaks in loud, vulgar terms on the phone — though not in person; after a text asking her to tone it down, Cheryl ghosted her. The hosts counsel playing the long game — iron sharpens iron through bumpy spots — and warn against ultimatums that end relationships. The Secular answer calls the advice-seeker right and the friend not nice; the hosts find both Secular answers off this week.