Ask the Pastor: encouraging perseverance with no payoff in sight
- How do you pastorally encourage perseverance when there is no visible payoff?
Boova's Ask the Pastor comes from a man at his church: two and a half years separated with no divorce finalized, co-parenting with a spouse running the other direction while he himself has gotten sober, steady, and safer — and he is tired of being the bigger person. The question is how to pastorally encourage perseverance when the payoff may never come. The hosts answer: keep walking toward Christ and let God reveal Himself and then reveal you; the real weariness comes from watching what someone else is doing, which is a forgiveness issue; and one host quotes Hebrews 12 on running with endurance, keeping eyes on Jesus. Practical counsel lands too: keep everything on paper and route communication through text messages. The segment closes with the Bob Eisenlauer complaint line, (515) 517-0085.
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